Written for a contest over at /r/WritingPrompts 🙂

I often wonder what I could have done differently. I think that’s the worst part of it all, honestly. I miss her, yes, I miss her every day, but what hurts the most is that I was so goddamn close when it happened. Close enough to do something, if only I’d been paying attention, but we’d each had one too many and. . .

Well, it doesn’t really matter, does it?

I’ve come to learn that grief is a circular prison; it never ends, but rather, it is a ceaseless loop of beginnings. So many fucking things begin: depression, healing, or a random breakdown, or hopelessness like being caught in a riptide that sucks the breath out of you, but none of it ever ends. It’s a string of half-finished pains and unanswered questions that defy the sands of time to survive and burrow into broken hearts. No matter how far you run, you’re still trapped in the circle, wandering an endless hallway of memories and regrets. There’s no escaping it.

You see a lot of the same things when you run down the same hallway for a few weeks; reliving that one night on the beach, a bonfire shaking its fist at the ocean breeze trying to smother it, or maybe when you stayed up all night playing Pokemon Crystal because she never had a Gameboy as a kid. Sometimes you end up at the darkest section, where you just curl up for a little while and cry because you’re exhausted and there’s just nothing else to do. A birthday. An anniversary.

God, we fell in love too young. It wasn’t supposed to be this way. 

Sometimes I get down on my hands and knees in the darkness, running my finger along the uneven cobblestone, tracing lines in hopes that I’ll find something, anything, to help make sense of it all. I never find anything, but I try anyway, aimless as it is. My friends call it ‘dwelling’, but they don’t get it. None of them can understand how hard it is to ask a question that will never get answered.

It might be pointless, but I’ve started this journal to help me maintain a semblance of sanity. I feel like I’m in the dark again, scouring the ground for clues, and need some modicum of method to the madness, even if it’s a lie.

Hopefully no one else ever reads this shit. I was just feeling kinda poetic.

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I went through her box again tonight. I know, I promised myself I wouldn’t, but I couldn’t help it. The orange chicken my mom ordered for dinner reminded me of her.

Honestly, who tries to keep a team of only bat Pokemon? It doesn’t even make any sense, none of them are very good. She’s got a legendary in a box at the center, and two Golbats on her team. It’s ridiculous.

Fuck, I miss her.

The batteries died after an hour and I’m out of AAs again, so I dug around through the box some more. Found that high school notebook she sketched random stuff in, all kinds of cool doodles and concepts where there should’ve been more notes. I just wish I could see them finished someday. What was weird, though, is that there was some stuff near the end of the notebook that I found by just flipping through it for no reason. A poem, mainly. I never noticed before since she sandwiched it between empty pages–I didn’t know she ever wrote anything, so maybe she was just embarrassed. No matter the reason, it was. . . haunting. I couldn’t even cry, it just sort of crushed my soul.

She sits still with hollow eyes,  

In a melting world of golden sighs,  

Wondering where warm winds blow,  

And if there’s a place for her to go.

She’d cry more if there were tears,  

Enough for all the world’s fears,  

And maybe some extra, too,  

For people like me and you,

Why must life hurt us so?  

We’re born and fight until we go,  

It’s a hamster wheel of work and pains,  

What do we make out of these chains?

Some things just refuse to end,

That’s where it cut off. She must not have ever finished it. It’s so. . . depressing, but at the same time, I feel the words like they’re a part of me. Like they were written for me to find, right here, right now. A poem for the future. A poem for me.

And, like her drawings, and our love, and our plans and family–it has no end. It’s only the beginning of something she’ll never get to finish.

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I couldn’t pay much attention at work today and pretended to be sick so Sam would let me go home early. A few well-placed groans and stifled coughs did the trick.

It’s the damn poem. I keep thinking about it and some of the phrases, they just feel so real for me. “We’re born and fight until we go”, and “Some things just refuse to end” are just so accurate and hit me where it hurts the most.

Nathan blew up my phone again, today, and I lied and said I was busy. I just can’t pretend to be happy and have fun right now, and they’ve learned at this point that there’s no point in fighting back. It just feels so unfair for me to still be here. They can’t possibly understand it.

I think I’m going to take a couple of personal days. Not going to use them for anything else, anyway, and there are some people I want to talk to.

The poem needs to be finished. I just can’t have another piece of her lying around like this, it’s so. . . wrong. And I feel like, for once, I can actually do something about it.

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Nathan texted me again today, as if yesterday didn’t happen. He’s a good friend, because a good friend is stubborn as hell, and that’s his best trait. Everyone else has sort of given up on me in a way, and I can’t blame them. It just doesn’t feel right. Normal shit doesn’t make sense anymore, as silly as that sounds. I let him down nicely.

Besides, I actually wasn’t lying to him, for once–I have plans.

I’m going to meet with a local author I found on Facebook. He doesn’t have much of a following yet, but I read some of his stuff and it’s better than anything I could do. I want to see what he can make of the poem. I pretended to be a fan and he agreed to meet with me for coffee today at Starbucks. Feels a little bad but it’ll make him feel better, too, so I figure there’s no harm done. I’ll take this with me and write down any gems he has to say.

Notes:

• fuck

Well, that was a waste of time. It was awkward as hell, and at least half of that was me, but he didn’t help much. I think he quickly figured out that I am not actually obsessed with him. When I showed him the poem, he just kinda sighed for a long time and then shrugged. Said he wasn’t a very good poet, and that poetry and writing isn’t the same thing. Didn’t even want to try.

Which would be fine, but one thing he said really bothered me. “Writing is like art, you know. Sometimes art is just like a real picture, but sometimes it’s abstract. Just because something doesn’t seem finished doesn’t mean it doesn’t have value as-is,” or something like that. You know, some holier-than-thou shit you’d expect from a wannabe author. The poem clearly stops partway through, and she deserves an ending. A proper ending. She was a person, not a fucking Picasso painting. I’ll just find someone else.

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Today’s the worst it’s been in a while. I called out of work again, so there goes my last sick day. This is what music and alcohol are for. Too hard to think when you’re hammered to the floor and can hardly hear your own thoughts.

It was so stupid. I just wanted some sushi to take home, and their special was the dragon roll. Her favorite.

i dont understand how i fall apart so easily

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Work makes everything so much worse. I swear to God, as if life doesn’t suck enough, my manager just has this natural desire to make everything ten times more miserable. Why is it my fault that her best project manager quit? That means go out and find another one, not look at me like I suddenly have two jobs. Jesus Christ. Gonna go to bed early tonight.

I’ve been reading some poetry lately. I really like this one by Robert Frost.

Nature’s first green is gold,  

Her hardest hue to hold.  

Her early leaf’s a flower;  

But only so an hour.  

Then leaf subsides to leaf,  

So Eden sank to grief,  

So dawn goes down to day  

Nothing gold can stay.

Just makes a lot of sense, and it sounds nice. I feel like that leaf, you know. A leaf in autumn that’s just always falling, and a dried husk of what it once was.

I’m clearly fucked if I’m relating to leaves.

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Alright, I know how desperate this is going to sound, but it’s the best thing I could come up with: I’m going to meet a psychologist. Found one on ZocDoc that I only had to wait three days for.

It’s ironic, because everyone used to tell me I need to see one so I can get a better handle on my grief, feel some liberation, be free, etc, and I always refused. Seemed corny to me, and just talking to someone isn’t going to fix any of this. I’m sure psychs have plenty of wisdom to offer, but last time I checked, wisdom doesn’t undo the past. Words can’t fill the hole she left behind.

And yet, here I am, sitting in the parking lot outside of her office, wasting as many seconds as possible before I actually have to deal with the situation. I’m gonna try to be more careful than I was with the author, or it’ll turn into an actual therapy session.

Notes:

• The poem has strong inclinations of regret and sadness, but it’s hard to predict the ending
• She wrote it in high-school, when she was not used to dealing with her emotions in a healthy manner
• If she had revisited it as an adult, she may have decided to give it a happier ending
• The only person who could’ve truly ended it is her, anything else is a guess
• It’s not

why doesnt anyone get it

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I lost control of the conversation we were having after a little while and had to sleep it off. Took a few zzzquil when I got home and let myself rest.

What she said made sense, I guess, it just wasn’t helpful at all. I get that no one else can really end her poem, and I shouldn’t pretend that someone else could. It wouldn’t be hers anymore, it’d be theirs. I got a bit stubborn in the moment and tried to stand my ground on that.

It turned into an argument–for me, at least. I just get so frustrated. I’m still trapped in the circle, running laps around her grave, and. . . I mean, maybe the psych was right. Maybe I am doing this to myself, at least partially. It just doesn’t feel like that. It feels like I’m trying to break out, like I’m clawing at the walls until my fingers are shredded.

Am I?

Or am I standing at the edge of a bridge, too afraid to cross it because I’m scared I might fall?

She had a lot of good analogies. I should’ve written more of them down, but panic attacks are a bitch. I have no idea how I drove home.

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It’s been a little while since I’ve written one of these. I dunno, maybe this stupid journal hurts more than it helps. I don’t know what helps. I think I need to pull away from all of this.

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For once, I’m writing about something that felt good. I know I said I’d stop, but I figured it’d be nice to actually throw something positive into this abyss.

Today was a pretty good day. I interacted more with Joan and Steve during my lunch break, and they seemed to be happy about it. We had a few good laughs, talked about how shit the movies are these days. Damn Disney took over the entire industry. It was nice, though, to chat with them, and I usually hate chatting, but I’ve been working with them for a while and I normally eat lunch alone in my cube.

So yeah. Progress, and all of that.

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I actually got promoted today, and it even came with a pay raise! Damn, I would’ve never expected that to happen. Guess Sam picked up on the extra work I’ve been doing and has been happy with it. Good things come in time, and all of that. Maybe I’ve been too hard on her.

I’m a project manager now! I think I deserve it, with all the hard work I’ve done. It’s nice to be recognized.

Take that, depression! Victory is mine.

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Ah, fucking hell. There’s a new girl at work, and I wasn’t paying attention when Sam brought her by to meet me. I’ve been pretty complacent lately, focusing on doing better for myself, even going to the gym sometimes, but when I turned around, for just a second. . . I saw her eyes. They were so fucking blue, I just. . .

Fucking hell.

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nothing gold can stay

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I can’t stop thinking about the poem, again. I swear, it’s like I can’t actually push anything out, it’s just swept under the rug. 

That psych was wrong. It seemed like dwelling, and in some ways it was, but I think this is closure for me. I’ve been going about it wrong, but I need to find a means to an end. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but. . .

I’m going to talk with Dad about it. I really wish Mom was still here for a time like this. She’d know what to do.

Notes:

Never mind, he’d just take the piss out of me for bringing a journal.

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You know, it’s funny. I always pinned my dad for the kind of guy to hate giving advice about this kind of thing, but he was real serious about the conversation once I opened up a little. I guess he lost his sister when he was pretty young. I didn’t know that.

We talked for a really long time, and he said some pretty real shit that hit me. He said, “Some things don’t make sense, and it’s bullshit, but if you try to make sense of them, you’ll just go insane. You have to make your own sense.”

Goddamn do I feel that in my soul.

I tried so hard to piece together what little of her I have left, but it was selfish. That wannabe author had it right–well, kinda. I get what he meant now about how just because something isn’t finished, doesn’t mean it isn’t right. I can never finish her poem for her, and neither can anyone else.

But that doesn’t mean it’s over. So dawn goes down to day.

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I think this is my last entry.

I finally went out with some of the guys today, and it was a lot of fun. I didn’t feel guilty for the first time in a while now, and they were all really supportive of me. I think she’d be proud.

I’ve thought a while about all the things I learned, not just from others, but about myself. I’ve been thinking about this all wrong, haven’t I?

Some things never end, and that’s okay. The human connection, the love we build, it’s like a little egg we shelter from the harsh winds of time that hatches and grows into a big, beautiful bird, something majestic and strong, like an eagle or hawk. It needs to fly and feel the air beneath its wings, so when it gets caged–for one reason or another–it suffers, and tries so hard to break free. I see now that I was not trapped in a prison, but rather that I built the prison and locked my love for her inside it. You cannot learn the ending to an unfinished story. . .

You can only be the ending yourself.

Forgive me, I’m not exactly Robert Frost.

She sits still with hollow eyes,  

In a melting world of golden sighs,  

Wondering where warm winds blow,  

And if there’s a place for her to go.

She’d cry more if there were tears,  

Enough for all the world’s fears,  

And maybe some extra, too,  

For people like me and you,

Why must life hurt us so?  

We’re born and fight until we go,  

It’s a hamster wheel of work and pains,  

What do we make out of these chains?

Some things just refuse to end,

                        ~

I know it hurts, it hurts so fucking bad,  

To look into the unknown,  

We have no idea what we’re doing here,  

Confused flesh and bone.

But maybe that’s the point of this,  

To tangle messy souls,  

Get lost together in this life,  

A road with bumps and holes.

How’d I forget you’re still in my heart?  

Wherever that may be,  

And as for what to make of it,  

I think that part’s up to me.

Yeah, some things just refuse to end,  

Like a bond with my closest friend,

Or the prison I’d shut myself in,  

They only begin again,  

And again,  

And again.